relationships
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Negotiating Sex
Mutually beneficial sex must be negotiated. During the first phase of our relationship, we may notice our similarities, but as we get to know each other better, we’ll naturally discover differences. These differences create conflict, with sex being a common… Continue reading
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Parenting as a Team: Talking About the Division of Care
Too often we minimize the unpaid work that women disproportionately handle when we use terms like “working moms” to refer only to those with paid jobs outside the home. Labels such as “stay-at-home mom” imply inactivity, while describing men as… Continue reading
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The Work of Peace: From Our Relationships to the World We Share
Peace doesn’t begin at the negotiating table or in the halls of power—it begins in how we treat one another. The same dynamics that shape a marriage, a family, or a friendship also echo through communities and nations. When we… Continue reading
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Emasculate: How the Man Code Traps Men
Masculinity, often presented as natural or strong, is in reality high-maintenance — a performance guarded by ridicule, fear, and peer enforcement. Boys learn early that masculinity isn’t something you are; it’s something you prove—over and over again. From boyhood on,… Continue reading
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Privileged Pleasure: Gender Politics in the Bedroom
What Does the Gender Pay Gap Have to Do With Sex? On the surface, it might seem like two completely separate conversations — one about economics, the other about intimacy. But look more closely, and you’ll see they are closely… Continue reading
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Let’s Talk About Consent
Think you understand consent? Misunderstanding consent puts people at risk—of being hurt, of being accused, and of facing life-changing consequences. Avoiding conversations about consent leaves people vulnerable both to being hurt and to hurting others. We have a responsibility to… Continue reading
The Little Stream: Where Soul Meets Society — Reflections on Well-Being, Religion, and Power 